Comedian Chris Rock offers this advice to fathers, "Your main job as a father," he says, "is to keep your daughter off the pole."
Rock is referring to pole dancing, stripping. And, no, I don't want to hear from all of you who know the finer points and differences between the two.
Last night, my daughter, who's usually reticent and doesn't like to share much about her life, her friend's life etc. came into my room.
"Can I talk to you for a minute?"
"Sure, what's up?"
"My friend, (name withheld), just called. Her parents are gonna kill her."
"Why?" I asked calmly, knowing this was a figure of speech and said friend's parents really weren't going to kill her.
"She just called me. She's going on stage in a few minutes. She took a job as a stripper."
My daughter then gave me the name and location of the place where her friend was getting ready to throw her dignity away.
It took every inch of my being not to get on the phone and call her friend's dad, and tell him to get down there and get his daughter off the stage.
I thought better of it because her friend's mother has made it abundantly clear in the past few weeks that we no longer have a friendship. We share a lot of the same friends, but it's too complicated to understand why this has happened. It's beyond me. Anyway, I digress, I'm over that -- REALLY. But because the situation is what it is, I didn't call.
And, I'm not sure that I would have been right to call. This girl is of legal age. An adult, who's been on her own since she was a teen. This is her decision.
Still, I was sad. My daughter was sad.
"Did you tell her not to do it?"
"She wouldn't have listened. I just told her to call me if she needed to talk after it was over."
Sometimes, that's the best we can do.
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